Out of all the people I know in real life and in blogland - all the blogs I've followed over the past few years - I think there is a grand total of 3 of us - THREE - who have not had success, don't have another child at home and are not in the middle of the adoption process. Wow. Three is, indeed, an extremely lonely number.
How the hell did this happen? This is not the life I imagined - not even close.
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We don't know each other yet, but I'm yet another out here in blogland who feels totally left behind. Everyone I know who has struggled with infertility has since adopted or been successful, but I'm still here, still childless. So if it helps at all, there are plenty more out here who get what you mean.
I'm sorry. I cannot imagine how you must feel at this time....
I know there are more people in your shoes than just 3, but still, I get that it must feel very lonely.
I am a surrogate, I wish I had 10 uteruses instead of just one....there are so many I would love to be able to help.
Hang on to some hope okay...I am hanging on to hope for you.
Ugh. I'm in the feeling-left-behind club, too. 9 years of TTC here...the zen years and the aggressive years and now the running out of money year. It all just sucks and I'm sorry. But I'm sitting here with you and wishing for more for both of us, for all of us.
Love,
Maddy
My good friend has been trying everything since age 36 (IVF, IUI etc) and is only now expecting a healthy baby boy (in a month) at age 41. The only thing that worked for her was taking the hormone DHEA. She got pregnant after after 2 or 3 months of taking it. Can you ask your doctor about this?
I have actually followed your blog as well as the others for the last 2y - - -and unfortunately, I remain in the same position as you. This is unbearable at times for me. I am still hanging on to hope but it is difficult. Yes, do know that there are more than three.......
I'm sorry. I know how it feels to be lonely in the IF world. It's awful. I wish I could give you a real hug and help you find your way.
It's a real drag to be left behind. I know my situation is different than yours, but I completely understand how isolating it is. I can't (won't?) troll for new IF buddies, I just feel liked I flunked the whole treatment thing... for me, it's a done deal. I'm over it--- A.R.T. that is.
I miss rooting for you and me.
I'm sorry. I remember feeling like you do. I didn't blog at the time but was part of online chat rooms. It is horrible to wonder if you will ever get a chance to be a mom and every one else who is successful - no matter how long it took or how they did it - is cold comfort because you still don't know how your story will end.
I wish there was a way to make it happen for you. I wish there was a way to make this time any easier. Keep breathing. One day you will be glad you are still alive.
I think the hardest part of this process for me has been feeling so alone - the internet has been great but it isn't the same as having caring people around you IRL. Sometimes I think if people I know could just UNDERSTAND what I'm going through it would be easier - but I know opening that can of worms is not something I'm wanting to do.
Thinking of you, hoping for better times ahead. Take care.
Count me in with you... :(
I actually had the exact same post a couple of weeks ago. The blog reading is making me feel like I'm permanently on pause!
Hang in there... The dark days do pass. They just seem to take sometime. Thinking of you!
ks
Hey how have you been doing lately? Been thinking of you and checkin in...
Just thought I would check in and say I have been thinking about you. I hope you are enjoying your break from all things IF.
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