Well I may never end up being a mother, but I am an aunt to four wonderful nieces. The fourth one is actually officially joining our family tomorrow. My step-brother just called and their birth mother just delivered their daughter and they are on their way to the hospital to finalize the adoption. They'll be bringing my newest niece home tomorrow!
I am truly happy for them. My step-brother and his wife struggled with IF for five years before deciding to adopt. I remember that we were just getting ready to start our first IVF cycle when they began the adoption process. We were so certain that IVF was going to work for us that we jokingly told them that if we ended up with triplets, we'd give them one. Now, a year and a half later, look who has a child and who doesn't. It makes me wonder if we chose the right path.
I am thrilled for them, but I know the next few weeks and months will be a little challenging for me with all the new baby talk and what not. Time to suck it up and try to think of someone other than myself.
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What a heart wrench - so happy for them but of course it just hurts to think you are still not where you want to be. But things will work out for you. Take the baby talk in small doses (if you can) and celebrate with them, cuz they will be there celebrating with you soon!
It's good that you want to suck it up but don't forget that you have feelings, too. I had to do the same thing when my nieces were born and my sister in law was pregnant. Not to mention everyone is so excited that it gets thrown in your face constantly. At least you can vent here. I hope they get their shit togeher at the clinic so you will have a hopeful distraction. (((hugs)))
It must make it a bit easier to take since you know that they have gone through a lot of heartache too. Your time will come.
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