It pains me to even admit this, but back in my early 30s, I had recently broken up with my boyfriend of five years. Prior to him, I was in another long-term relationship for five years, so for most of my 20s I had been in a relationship. I forgot how to date - not like I necessarily was all that skilled at it prior to those relationships, but I definitely was out of practice. I hadn't read "The Rules" and this was just before "He's Just Not that Into You" was published. So, in my defense, I had little guidance.
Anyway, I started dating this guy and even though I told him I wasn't ready for a serious boyfriend, I immediately fell back into my comfortable girlfriend role that I'd been living for the past 10 years and tried to force him into playing the part of my boyfriend. He hung in there - or maybe he just couldn't figure out how to get rid of me - for two months. When he tried to make his escape from our "relationship" I was determined not to let him go easily. As embarrassing as it is to look back on that time, I have to laugh (and cringe) when I think of all the excuses I found to call him or e-mail him. I just couldn't let it go, and I made quite the a$$ of myself - poor guy. I was relentless for probably several months after he dumped me - leaving messages on his voice mail. Calling his phone from a different number so maybe he'd actually answer - ugghh! long e-mails explaining why I think he made a mistake. The list goes on and on.
Well, I had a flashback today. I felt the crazy ex-girlfriend buried deep within me rearing her wacky head. As I was sending my third e-mail to the nurse in as many days and leaving yet another voice mail on her phone, I had this sick feeling overcome me....crazy is back! So, I had to take a step back and tell myself that I've done everything that I can do. Time to put down the phone and step away from the computer.
I don't like crazy ex-girlfriend. I thought I had left her far behind in my past. I guess she has now transformed into crazy DE patient - I'm sure the nurses are scared!
Anyway, I guess I wore them down. I got this response from the nurse today:
"We have a call into another donor who is one of your choices. I will let you know when I hear from her. I will be in the Gxxx office on Tuesday. So give me a call on Wednesday.
Hang in there....we will get things working for you kiddo!"
Nice! So, I am making a promise here for all to see - no more phone calls or e-mails until Wed.
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Yes, you were a crazy ex-girlfriend, who wasn't? That's before us women acquire the sophisticated knowledge that no matter how awesome the guy, he's NEVER worth the begging for and that every single romantic heartbreak heals!
But as a DE patient, ABSOLUTELY NOT! Apples and oranges my friend, apples and oranges!
You're not stalking or not getting the hint. You're a top client and you have a RIGHT TO EXPECT to be treated as such. My goodness - what would happen if I didn't call one of my internal clients back for days? I'd get a talking to and I'd expect no less from my vendors.
Please do not start thinking it's you - it's not you. It's THEM!
I know, from my own experiences, that these RE's really and truly need a wake-up call and, unfortunately, I don't know how they're going to get it. They make money hand-over-fist in cash and provide service that's okay, just okay. I mean, when you're shelling out tens of thousands of dollars for services, you don't expect the same customer experience you get at a fine restaurant, you expect FAR better. And more often than not, RE practices provide good but not stellar service towards their customers. That means some patients are more laid back, some are more neurotic (me), some have Type A personalities (also me), some are forgetful, etc.
So you make sure you're getting what you need, because you damned well should be!
I totally agree - this is a completely different situation. You are PAYING the clinic to be responsive, and they are doing a TERRIBLE JOB (at least at that particular thing, I don't know all your particulars)
At least you have some clarity now, as apparently even the TC (terrible clinic) has decided your original donor is flaking out. I think you really owe it to your peace of mind to call the other clinic and do a consult. NOT that I'm trying to tell you what to do (even though I just did) but this clinic doesn't seem to have your best interests at heart. And even if they do - don't you deserve the BEST clinic? You shouldn't have to be going crazy because they don't respond to your VERY REASONABLE questions. It just makes me so mad. But I'd understand if you don't call too, by the time I finally did a YEAR had gone by (wasted) and I still went with my Not Totally Satisfactory Clinic.
Oh well - hoping for the best on Wednesday! Take care and have a great weekend -
I had to laugh at your description of yourself ad the crazy-ex. Too funny...and true. We haev all been there in one way or anyother. I;m glad they got back to you and are working for you....too bad they could not have told you sooner. Se how easy it is to satisfy us crazy per-cycle E-IVF patients. Just one little e-mail and we are fine. How hard was that?!
I hope the new donor replies soon and you are on your way to a great cycle very soon.
IVF brings out the crazy in all of us, but I believe it is justified!
Good luck on your DE cycle. I will be paying attention and wishing you well.
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