I talked to the nurse this morning and they still haven't heard back from the donor - it's been a week and a half since they started trying to get up with her....hmmm....I think something is up. The nurse said she's always been really responsive in the past so they are not sure what's going on this time unless she went out of town on vacation without telling them. Regardless, I told the nurse that if we don't hear something by early next week - like Monday - I'm ready to ditch this donor and move on to another and she agreed.
I just have a bad feeling about all this. First her E2 levels were too high last month. Now this month she is not returning phone calls when we should be starting a cycle. Not good. Even though the nurse has gone on and on about what a great donor she is, I'm fine moving on. I originally had some hesitations about her medical history and her blood type doesn't match mine or my husband's. After thinking about it, I think I'd just feel better if our donor has one of our blood types. I would hate to have a child with a different blood type who might need blood one day and neither me or my husband would be able to donate. So, we'll see. If she calls back with a good reason for being MIA and is ready to start cycling we'll proceed. But if not, I think it's a sign that this isn't the donor for us.
I've already picked out some other possible candidates on their list of donors. There is also another clinic in town that has several donors that look good on their list, so I may contact them as well to see how much of a hassle it would be to switch clinics at this point. Regardless, I'm ready to make something happen. I like having a plan.
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Well, it is about time the clinic got back to you. I am mad for your sake, I think they should have kept you in the loop and even if they couldn't reach her they should have let you know that from the start. NOT that I'm trying to make you more crazy than this must be making you!
And IMHO you should at least check with the other clinic nearby; at least it will give you something constructive to do until you rule out the other donor (or she shows up with the "I was in a car wreck and had amnesia for 2 weeks" excuse). Good luck what ever you decide!
At least the clinic finally responded--and I have to agree with you. it is a redflag-and if the donor can not return a call then I think I'd be worried about her level of commitment, KWIM? It wouldn't hurt to check with the other clinic and see which donors they have available now--maybe they have someone you would prefer AND with your (or dh's) blood type! :)
Riley, I'm so sorry. What a hassle! And go with your gut on the donor. No donor will ever be as perfect as our own eggs would be but if her estrogen is high and she's now MIA, you can feel good to move on to another donor.
Follow your instincts! Most of all, best of luck - I'm thinking of you through this journey.
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