Frustration

It's been a week since I last spoke with the nurse. At that time, she tried to calm me down and said she would put a call into the donor (who hadn't returned the phone calls of a different nurse) to see what was going on. She told me again what a great donor this particular donor is and to basically just calm down and be patient.

Well, my patience is running pretty thin these days. I haven't gotten an update, so I called the nurse today and left a message to see if she could tell me what's going on. I am this close to jumping ship and going to a different clinic. When I think of all the time we've wasted with this clinic with no results, no nothing, it really upsets me. I'm not sure if we can get all our money back or not, but I'd like to check into it. I wonder if we had gone somewhere else if I'd be pregnant by now. Not to mention the fact that during this whole process, the nurses have never been overly responsive - they go days without returning phone calls - sometimes even weeks. I can never get answers to my questions. The clinic where I did my first IVF was so different - my phone calls were always returned and they even posted the e-mail addresses of the doctors who would actually respond to e-mails. At my current, non-responsive clinic, the only way you can ever speak to the doctor is to schedule an appointment - they will never let you talk to him on the phone and there is no e-mail or contact information listed for him anywhere. Your only option is leaving a message for the nurse.

So, today - I'm going to do some research on other clinics in the area. My main concern is the time it may take to get started somewhere else. With my current clinic, we've already done all the preliminary tests because we tried a couple of IVF cycles with them, our application is already on file, I've supposedly been matched with a donor and we've already taken the class and met with the psychologist etc etc. If I go somewhere else, I wonder if they will make us do all this stuff again - which would require more time and probably more money. Also, I need to find out how long their waits are for donors. I would hate to give up on my clinic just to go to another where I'd have to wait another 6 months. Right now, it's been five and a half months since we submitted our application. I don't know what to do. I just get so frustrated that nothing is happening despite my best efforts.