Ok - I'm feeling quite excited - still trying not to get my hopes up too high but the doctor called today and said out of the 14 - 11 were mature and fertilized. Out of those 11 one didn't divide correctly but the other 10 are looking great and dividing as they should! Yay!! The most I've ever had at this point were 6 still looking good, so to have 10 looking good - I'm pretty happy.
AND, right now he's thinking he wants to do a 5-day transfer - Thursday around 1:30. I've never had a 5-day - even with my last donor cycle that did not work - they did a 3-day transfer. He's going to check them again tomorrow to confirm, but right now we are looking at 5-day!!
My husband is convinced that the problem all along has been his sperm - since our embryos always stopped dividing early and fell apart. This seemed to be confirmed when the same thing happened using donor eggs. This is the first time we've used donor sperm and so far, so good. We are trying to focus on that and not think about all the money and time we've wasted - if we had only known and had done donor sperm from the start instead of donor egg, then we'd have a lot more money in our pocket and possibly already have a kid or two that were actually genetically related to me. Oh well. This whole process just seems to be trial and error and at this point, I think we are both over worrying about the genetic connection - as long as we get a healthy baby we'll be thrilled.
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Best wishes for a great 5 day transfer and BFP! Food for thought, my husband has average sperm (but not great) and we were interested in using DS because he has a genetic disease that runs in his family. He has a healthy 17 year old son. However, our clinic would not even let us use DS from the beginning! If I have another m/c this cycle they have finally agreed to let us use it. I would have gone to DS straight off the bat to save us grief and wouldn't you know, no go. Odd huh? But I've got my california cryobank donors all lined up just in case. Wishing you the best of luck!
I am so excited for your 5-day transfer.
Hey, hind-site is 20/20. Don't beat yourself up about it, or the clinic, either. You are all doing the best you can.
Absolutely fantastic news! Long may it continue.
That is fabulous -- it sounds like all is going very smoothly (knock on wood), and I wish you smooth sailing from here on in.
Remember, what's past is past, and just try to look forward, at least for 4 more days!
Fantastic news! I'm so excited for you!
This is such exciting news! Don't worry about the 'what if's' - you are on the path you are on and hopefully it will bring you a live child by next summer. Worrying about the 'what if's' leads nowhere. Just enjoy!
Oh congratulations! So far, so good, indeed!
That is fabulous, truly! You're so headed in the right direction here! Woo Hoo!
great news indeed! congrats
Congrats on the great embryo report!
RE male issues, there is so little that the REs really know about the problems that suboptimal sperm can cause. Our RE must have told us 10,000 times that "as long as the eggs fertilize, the job of the sperm is done." After 5 IVF cycles we gave up and switched to DE. The first two DE cycles failed, then we switched to a proven super-ueber-fertile donor and finally it worked. However, even with the super-ueber-fertile donor, we only got one embryo in the end that made it - this was quite different from previous cycles for that donor.
The whole thing made me realize... the suboptimal sperm really does play a big role. I wonder too in idle moments what would have happened if we had realized this a while ago and tried DS... after 5 years of infertility treatment I am now in the "probably too old" category so I have missed the boat on trying DS with my own eggs. I don't think of this as "my fault", I don't think you should think of it as "your fault," I *do* think that the REs concentrate too much on the egg part of the equation and not enough on the sperm.
In the end, though, what you say is absolutely right - having a little one to love and take care of is what matters the most, not whether it is genetically linked to you. Hopefully this is a giant step on the path towards that goal!
I had a similar experience with the sperm issue. I will probably always wonder if we could have used my eggs if we had started IVF earlier or had moved to IUI with DS first. My RE acknowledges there is some negative effect with suboptimal sperm and suggested we only try one DE cycle and if that failed go right to DE/DS. Fortunately for us it worked.
Massive amounts of luck to you!
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