I got the call - my donor is triggering tonight. The nurse said everything looks good, but didn't offer up any details, and I didn't push. Retrieval will be Saturday - the bad thing about that is that I may not be able to find out how many eggs were retrieved until the lab calls with the fert report on Monday. It's nearly impossible to get anyone other than the answering service to talk to you on the weekends unless it's an extreme emergency, so we'll see how anxious I feel on Saturday. Right now, I think I may just wait until Monday because my dad and step-mom will be in town visiting this weekend and they have no idea that we are even doing this cycle right now (we've quit telling family because they get their hopes up only to be crushed, so we aren't telling until we get a BFP.) I really don't want to be stressing over all this while they are here, so I may just TRY to put it out of my mind - we'll see how well that one works out!
The nurse thought we were going to be mixing hubby's sperm with the donor sperm - that was our original plan, but we are doing straight donor sperm because my husband is convinced now that he has been the problem all along - especially after we had such bad results with our attempt at using DE - he thinks his sperm is poison. Who knows - he may be right, so neither of us has to go in on retrieval day this time - weird, weird, weird.
But we will both be going in either next Tuesday or Thursday for transfer - depending on if they want to do 3-day or 5-day. I'm hoping for a 5-day with lots of fabulous embryos to choose from. It's so close, but feels so unreal. We are completely detached from this entire cycle. Last time, I wrote a nice note for the donor - I'm not even bothering this time. If it works, then maybe I'll do something then.
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wow, its here. I have been following you blog through the cycle and think you sound so calm and together. Good luck with your donor's ER. Here's to your 5 day transfer and tons of frosties.
EB
I don't blame you about not writing a letter. After so much disappointment, it would be hard for anyone to turn on smiley-faced optimism. And while you'll feel different when you learns it works, for now it's 100% acceptable to feel your donor fee is thanks enough. Good luck.
Riley, I'm very excited for you. I know it's strange to not have to be there for the retrieval OR the fertilization part. It's tough not to feel "essential" in this process, though I promise you you'll feel so integral to the process when you're in labor. ;)
WOOHOOO!!!! Congratulations! Hoping I'll be just a couple of weeks behind you for the next, oh, 8.5 mos...
Trigger, T minus Zero! Well, we used donated embryos, so I did my meds at home and just showed up the day of transfer. Nice and neat! Just make sure you turn down the volume on your answering machine, just in case the clinic calls over the weekend while your folks are visiting!
I totally get the no nice note thing. We did two cycles with our first donor (one fresh, one frozen), and had so much hope invested in it, and no results... with the second donor it was impossible to muster up that enthusiasm and hope again, I was just going through the motions at that point. It was hard to figure out how to write a letter that didn't say "we basically have no hope but thanks for being willing to try anyway" - who wants to hear that when putting in the effort to cycle for someone?
Best wishes for some sanity as you wait!
Ha. A few weeks ago I thought about sending my RE a nice piece of pottery (I used to do it in my spare time and have lots) IF this worked because I was so happy with him and his staff. Needless to say, I won't be shipping out any bowls. And call me a bit jaded, but they won't be getting any unless I deliver a baby 9 months after the next try.
I'm so annoyed for your that you can't reach your clinic on the weekends. ARGH! Hopefully they will nestle in a grow, grow, grow over the weekend!
Riley that is awesome! Congrats on this next step and I hope that you have a weekend that is sufficiently distracting. Yeah for the next step!!
You are 'Off to the races!' - woo hoo! Best of luck on this huge step and please let us know how it went over the weekend.
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